Self image is a big subject: lots of people are saying lots of smart things, with lots of smart and beautiful women are still not listening.
Jane is one of my best friends, and she is beautiful. No rose tinted, your-my-friend-so-I-have-to-say-that glasses here, men think she’s beautiful, women think she’s beautiful. Jane however, does not agree. She will spend hours picking apart non-existent imperfections until she declares herself ugly and doesn’t leave the house, ‘imperfections’ I can’t see even after she points them out.
I should add at this stage that I’m one of those women, I’ll say it now and get it out of the way: There is no one else in the world I would rather look like, no one.
You know something else? I mean it.
I’m not a Victoria Secret Angel, nor do I have an arse like Rihanna, I’m not 5’10’’ and leggy, nor do I have a body like a new mattress. I’m a distinctly average, 5’7’’, size 12 blonde with tits and a bum and some bits in the middle, some jiggle, some don’t, all bits are tanned (somewhat haphazardly), some are smooth and some are not.
Yet as Carrie Bradshaw would say…. “She had the kind of deluded self confidence that caused men like Ross Perot to run for president”.
I have long maintained that self-confidence is not the same as arrogance, although the two are often used interchangeably and incorrectly. Self-confidence is being comfortable enough to say to the world “This is me, and I’m happy”.
This is potentially why I have such difficulty understanding why other people cannot see their own beauty – it’s obvious to me, so many women are stunning, so why is it not obvious to them?
Self-image/confidence/self esteem is a subject I plan on writing many things on, if I did it all at once I might as well write a book…. oh wait…. *idea*
Until the next blog, remember this: You are who you. That will never change*, love yourself and the world will be a brighter, happier place. I promise.
*With £100,000 you could get some serious surgery, but that’s not accepting who you are: it’s an expensive route to run away from yourself, trying to create someone you think is better. Don’t do it